(Autosuggestion and Suggestion) The building blocks of Self Defeating Beliefs

Whenever we are unconscious we are often unaware of the beliefs that we have accepted about life. These unconscious and self-defeating beliefs keep us recreating the same unfulfilled experiences again and again.

Let’s focus upon these self-defeating beliefs that we have discovered to be one the main roadblocks to enjoying a life of fulfillment.

First off, let’s define the word Belief:

A Belief is a mental attitude of acceptance toward a suggestion without full knowledge required to guarantee its truth.

A perfect example of a belief can be found in the idea that our world is flat. This sounds absolutely ridiculous to even consider today but for thousands of years this was what most people on earth believed. In fact, those who argued that the world was round were often mocked and chastised. Those who thought that the world was flat upheld this belief with such conviction that they would fight anyone who thought differently. This is a form of cognitive dissonance when one believes something with great conviction despite proof to the contrary.

Today, beliefs in certain religious doctrines invoke similar reactions from their followers. What they believe is not only true for them but for all who inhabit the earth. Anyone who believes differently is perceived as a threat and often tortured, or even murdered - for believing otherwise. There are countless examples of beliefs which keep humanity divided.

None of these limiting beliefs would be possible without first having a divided mind.

Many of us believe that we must compete against one another to get our fair share. We support a belief in lacking; that there in not enough. This goes back to the days when we had to work much harder for much less. As we have advanced so too has our ability to create an abundance of all things material. Yet conditions such as poverty still prevail due largely to our impoverished state of minds.

There are those among us who believe that if they accumulate enough money or weapons that they will feel safe and in control. These people are not out to get the rest of humanity; they simply feel that they need to take extreme measures to remain in control and safe. These folks have yet to discover that it does not matter how much money or power they accumulate, nei-ther will ever be able to fulfill their fundamental needs!!

Many believe that there are people conspiring against them and that the mysterious “They” are to blame for their woes. These folks blame the rich and powerful for their own lack of fulfillment. They judge those with “more” but would switch places with those very same people in a heartbeat if they had the chance. These people get caught up in the notion that the world is unfair and they have nothing coming!! These "notions" are kept alive by their own unconscious thought pat-terns that sustain their apathy and victim hood.

Many believe they must only maintain their physical beauty in order to attract a lover.

Many believe they must have enough money to attract a worthy partner.

Then belief gets into the realms of superstition such as the belief that we must act in accordance with whatever our church claims to be acceptable or we will be banished to hell when we die.

Many of us believe that only “positive” experiences are to be appreciated or acknowledged. Others of us believe that they are neither worthy nor capable of experiencing those very same "positive" experiences.

Many of us have a set idea of how and where we can find contentment and safety and any other way is just plain wrong.

Many believe that they’re powerless to change their lives and that their God is the only power that can save them. Even if their "God" could save them, they would still have to become willing to be saved. This process serves those folks too!

Many believe that they cannot find happiness unless their life looks a certain way.

This list goes on and on.

Where the heck did all of these beliefs come from? Well, beliefs, as well as the mental pathways that support them, are all formed by suggestion. If you go back to our definition of Belief, the word Suggestion is the key to understanding the scope of a self-defeating beliefs all-encompassing effect.

Suggestion has two ways of affecting our minds.

Suggestion: The process whereby the mere presentation of an idea to a receptive person leads to the acceptance of that idea.

Here is an example of a life affirming suggestion:

"You're a very talented boy"

Here is an example of a self-defeating suggestion:

"You're a worthless loser"

Autosuggestion Is the process of suggestion in which a person supplies the means of influencing their own behavior. This is the way that those mental pathways are reinforced within our minds.

Here is an example of a life affirming auto-suggestion:

"I can do anything."

Here is an example of a self-defeating auto-suggestion:

"I am an idiot."

We are all influenced by the suggestions of others as well as the suggestions we tell ourselves. Modern advertising thrives off of the use of subtle suggestions including images shown on billboards.

Every belief begins as a mere suggestion.

Any belief becomes true for us when we automatically autosuggest enough thoughts to support it.

Let’s go back to our self-defeating autosuggestion example to gain a clearer picture. If someone habitually calls themselves an “idiot” then they are actually unconsciously supporting a self-defeating belief in their own stupidity. If someone believes they are a “stupid idiot” then they will set forth to prove this belief right by acting like a stupid idiot.

That’s pretty much it!

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How does powerlessness over these thought patterns make us unfulfilled?

Let’s take a closer look at what we mean by “unfulfilled”. After all, if these unconscious thought patterns did not have some sort of a limiting and self-defeating effect on our lives, we would not be turning to this suggested plan of action for assistance.

How does powerlessness over these thought patterns make us unfulfilled?

When we say that our lives have become unfulfilled, we are referring to needs of a fundamental nature. In our experience, a life that does not enjoy love, intimacy and creative expression is unfulfilled and susceptible to undue pain and suffering. Our other fundamental need is a sustained feeling of safety and comfort within our own bodies. Without this elusive combination we became prey to all sorts of addictions in an attempt to change and or control the way we feel.

In our experience, we have discovered that many of us had no true ability to love others, as we desired. Many of us had been in relationship after relationship that had moments when we shared love, but with those fleeting moments, more often than not, there was a consistent feeling of fear and or discontent. We saw the relationships others seemed to be enjoying and became distraught that those same qualities simply did not exist for us.

Many of us engaged in a different sort of relationship. We seemed to choose partners that all but ensured future heartache and defeat. Or, many of us, who had our fair share of those roller coaster rides, resigned ourselves to settling into relationships that were safe and stagnant.

We would choose partners that we could take or leave.

We chose partners who we could easily control and remain safe, so to speak.

The same seemed to carry over into the relationships we shared with our friends as well. Most of us had difficulty meeting new people or allowing new friends to get close, instead we settled into unfulfilled friendships with people who related, on some level, with our outlook upon life.

Many of our friendships seemed to share a survival type mentality. These relationships seemed to share the bond of mutual suffering rather than fulfillment. Over time, we became increasingly distraught over the lack of true love we shared with those around us. For many others, we had simply accepted this sort of interrelation as our only option.

We were simply not aware that we could experience anything else!!

Of course, after enough of these types of relationships, we began to question what the common denominator was.

What did all of these unfulfilled relationships have in common?

The answer was simple.

We were in every single one of them!

We began to see that we were only capable and or willing to participate in certain kinds of relationships. We did not know how to go about experiencing anything different. After diving into the work outlined in this suggested plan of action, we began to see that it was our Unconscious thought Patterns that attracted others who reflected the core beliefs we supported in regards to love and intimacy. We began to take hold of the notion that we had all learned specific ideas or concepts of love that held very little in common with the love we yearned to experience.

We began to see that we went out of our way to choose partners and experiences with others that could confirm what we believed love was. We discovered that we wanted to be right about what we believed about our-selves. We had developed conditioned beliefs in regards to our worthiness to experience love and intimacy with others. Unfortunately, being right about what we believed in regards to our ability to experience love and intimacy made us feel defeated. At this point we often gave up on the prospect of love and intimacy all together and began to engage in other activities, which kept us really busy and distracted, yet equally unfulfilled.

Of course, we were not Consciously Aware that we were the common denominator in our own unfulfillment until we acknowledged that we supported all of this with our own mind.

We simply held thoughts and beliefs that limited our range of experiences. Once we could admit that we were Not Victims we also had to admit that in our current state of mind, we were absolutely powerless to change this cycle of unfulfillment.
The same mental process that led to our unfulfillment with Love and Intimacy also carried over to the Professional and Creative aspect of our lives. Many of us had unfulfilled creative desires that had been tormenting us for quite some time. Many more of us were caught in a bewildering cycle of dead end jobs that crushed our soul and drove us to escape life whenever possible. Others of us got the job that looked really great on the out-side but left us discontent and exhausted nonetheless.

There is another fundamental need that is often overlooked, but is the key to sustained ability to achieve the Love, Intimacy and Creative Expression that we yearn to experience.

This other fundamental need is a Sustained feeling of Safety and Comfort within our own bodies. Without this feeling of safety and comfort, all those other fundamental needs run the risk of devolving into addictive mechanisms in order to feel safe or comfortable, if only for a moment.

In other words, if we feel fearful and unfulfilled rather than safe and comfortable then we will take action, often times drastic and destructive action, to change how we feel. This is where every form of addiction comes into play.

This is a section from the book entitled "The Conscious Creators Handbook" by The Creative Collective Alliance.

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THE WAY OF THE CONSCIOUS CREATOR

“There is nothing more dangerous than a man who believes his deceptions of self and builds his life upon them as it they were the truth.”


THE WAY OF THE CONSCIOUS CREATOR

This first step in the way of the conscious creator helps you determine the foundation your life is built upon.

This process digs deep to connect you, the reader, to your only true enemy. This most formidable foe is not another person but rather the recesses of your own mind.

This first handbook shines a dim candle of awareness upon the unconscious thought patterns that have hijacked our relationships, esteem and above all else, our relationship with our own being which knows the way in all things..

This process connects you to the being within.

This process empowers you to take the surgeon’s scalpel and dig deep enough to ad-dress the cause of your unfulfillment.

This process also helps you to see the madness in living out the remainder of your days medicating the effects.

This is a process of acknowledging that we have been wounded and that we are also healers.

This is a process of reuniting with our being and consciously creating our masterpiece.

The first brush stroke comes with a simple acknowledgement.

Let us begin!

What Are Unconscious Thought Patterns?

HANDBOOK ONE OVERVIEW


"We acknowledged that we were powerless over our unconscious thought patterns which had made our lives unfulfilled."

So, what are unconscious thought patterns?

Unconscious thought patterns are ingrained and automatic thought pathways within our minds. These pathways are similar to grooves on a record. They are much like a path that has been well worn. Our thought impulses have traveled across these well-worn paths time and time again. When we think a thought long enough, especially an emotionally charged thought, it quickly be-comes automatic because the neural path-ways for this thought become strongly em-bedded in the neural network of our brain. They become habitual. As in, our unconscious thought patterns become something we act upon automatically.

For Example:

Just think back to when you were learning to ride a bike. In the beginning you had to make a very conscious effort to stay balanced and move the pedals. After a while, and with much repetition, this became an ingrained response. It became second nature. At this point, the bike pathways within your mind had become established. This is when riding a bicycle became effortless and automatic. That’s why you never forget how to ride a bike!

Unconscious thought patterns are very connected to our subconscious. We view the subconscious like memory in a computer or one of those old cameras that burns an image on to a sensitized plate. The subconscious is similar to a storage device. It registers every moment experienced. It stores all the thought impressions we have over the course of our lives. The more emotionally charged or habitual these thought impressions are, the stronger the impression our subconscious registers. The more thought impressions our subconscious registers, the stronger the thought pathway that supports those thought impression will become.

If you have ever moved the trashcan in your kitchen from one area to the other then you understand how this mental process works. Perhaps the trashcan used to be under the sink. Perhaps it was there for years. Then you bought a new trashcan that would not fit under the sink so you moved it against the wall. How many times did you have to catch yourself getting ready to throw your trash under the sink even though the trashcan was now against the wall? Perhaps it took a few days or weeks before you automatically registered that the trashcan was against the wall.

As you can see, unconscious thought pat-terns are neither good nor bad. They are what we have made of them. They are the mental reflection of the lives we have experienced and the thoughts we have supported. The focus of Handbook One is to acknowledge those unconscious thought pat-terns, which are self-defeating.


THE WAY OF THE CONSCIOUS CREATOR

HANDBOOK ONE

THE CREATIVE COLLECTIVE ALLIANCE

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